Sorry, I've been too busy....

We've all gotten this excuse.  And you try and justify it to yourself and your friends.  Denying the sheer truth of what's really going on.  Plain and simple, that person just isn't into you.  No one is THAT busy.  The busiest people in the world make time for the people that are important in their lives.  We all have to eat.  So grab lunch, dinner, damn breakfast if you have to.  Just giving that person a fraction of your day.  Showing that you are in fact interested and that you really want to get to know them.  And if you don't want to hang out with them, be honest about it.

I am guilty of the "too busy" line.  Stringing boys along.  The truth is, no matter how tired I am, if I like you and want to get to know you, I will make it happen.  It doesn't matter if I had to work a 10 hour day, followed by a 2 hour workout.  I will feed off the excitement to see you!  I'll probably have a little hop in my step.  :)  I want to get to know you.  I'll always make sure you know what days I am free.  And I'll never make a generalization of when we can hang out.  It will be locked on my calendar.  

I'm tired of this excuse and stopped using it.  Some of you can vouch for that!  LOL :)  I have started being honest and saying "It's never going to happen!"  Which is the nice thing to do.  It sets people free.  

With that said, if I tell you when I am free and you get the days confused more than once, probably going to write you off.  Nothing is worse than me holding a day for you and you flake.  REALLY???  If we talk on a Sunday and plan on Thursday, don't say "I thought we were going to hang out on Friday" when I confirm with you on Wednesday.   

There's assumptions I'm going to make about your flaking.  And just because I love list's so much here are my top 5 reasons.

1. There's someone else you probably like more.

2. You're just a flakey person.  And we wouldn't work out anyhow.

3. You didn't listen to me.  And we wouldn't work out anyhow.

4. You got our date confused with your other girls.

5. You are just a douchebag.

So pick which ever one you seem fitting.  And if you aren't feeling someone, just say it.  

I fall in love like once a day....

Wanna make out?   

I was sitting at the Custom Hotel pool celebrating a friends birthday.  I saw a guy approaching and hit my friend sitting next to me and said "Damn, he's hot!"  He looked at me and said "Of course you think HE is hot.  Stephanie, you're like a 16 year old girl.  You pick guys for all the wrong reasons.  And you know it.  But yet you still fall for them."   

Yes it's true.  He was so right on the money.  I do pick guys for all the wrong reasons.  You're hot, lets make out.  You have swagger, lets play with your dagger.  I'm a hot mess.  

So I've been thinking, what exactly am I looking for?  I guess, the male version of me.  I can rock out but still be loyal to my man.  I love to party but yet still love to be at home.  I mean if I can be all these things, can't I find my counterpart?  He has to exist.  Right????

So on my Tough Love 2 audition, the casting director said "You don't want a nice stable guy because they are safe.  You like the excitement of a risky guy."  I am a nice, stable (once you have my heart) sweetheart that LOVE's to party!  I want someone like me.  She told me good luck.  It won't happen.  But I am adamant that he is out there.  If I wasn't sure of it, I think I would have just given up by now.  

Boy's I know I should avoid:

1. If you talk openly about this girl you've been dating for the past year, probably shouldn't make out with you.

2. One's that only call when they are in town.  I need a full time man. 

3. Any man that tells me "I just can't be in a relationship right now."  Really????  Go fuck yourself.

4. Boys that just text and never call.  If you can't actually talk to me, what is the point?  When your looks are gone, you better have some great speaking skills.

5. The "I'm so busy, sorry" guy.  We all have to eat.  If you really wanted to get to know me, you'd make the time.

6. Any guys that just don't show an interest in me.  I don't mean you have to call all the time.  But I shouldn't be the one who has to start every conversation!  Show me that you are interested by calling or at least texting me first.  

7. The guys who only call at night!  Ummm, really, I'm never coming over and no you can't stop by.  You can stop that.  When's the last time you've seen me?  It wasn't when you sent me a late night booty call.  I don't respond to those.  If I do, I'm just teasing you.  (BTW, I'm a big tease.)

8. I call when its convenient for me guy.  You're lonely and you call me to hang out.  We don't hook up but you lay heavy lines on me with huge promises of how things will be.  Then you disappear because you sold the same lines to another girl.  So you disappear for a while but you always pop in.  

Are you the male version of me?  If so, speak the F up!  Night! xxoo