Singles Awareness Day.

Singles Awareness Day aka Valentine's Day is upon us again.  You made it through the holidays alone but when this day hits, bam like a left hook to the jaw.  Honestly this day only matters to women so they can show off to their friends!  You want to prove to your friends how much your man loves you.  It's a straight competition!

If you work in an office the pressure is on.  Will your husband/boyfriend come through?  And best believe he better have gotten you a bigger bouquet of flowers than so and so!  Oh and the questions they ask with judging eyes....where is he taking you to dinner tonight?   

Even if you could care less about this Hallmark holiday, you end up caring that day.  Caring because of all the inquiries about what your man is doing for you.  Seeing the pictures posted all over Facebook.  Regardless of the tough exterior you put on, it still hurts.

For us single ladies, it's hard.  We couldn't go out to dinner even if we wanted to.  Prix-fixe over priced menus surrounded by couples giving each other goo-goo eyes.  The expectations thick in the air.  And everyone around you getting laid, well at least they hope.  

Well here's to girls competition day!  Good Luck Ladies, may the best woman WIN!

Well that was totally awkward....

We live in such digital times.  I know most of my communication is done on the computer.  Which makes in person moments sometimes even more awkward than they should be.  It puts you face to face with people you're not really sure if you know "in real life" or not!

So a few weekends ago I was at the Hollywood Farmers Market.  It was pretty packed and I was dodging people with push carts full of produce and Mom's pushing strollers through the maze of marketeers.  I look down at this stroller as I step to the side and "Hey I know that kid!"  As I look up thinking that it's someone I know pushing the stroller I come face to face with the Mom.  Well hello Gwen Stefani.  My face turned from the hey how are you doing, so great to see you heeeeerrrr......oh shit, I only know your kid from the paparazzi sites I cruise daily.  How insane is it that I felt I knew this child????  But I only know them from pictures I see.  That's pretty scary.

Since I joined a dating site (which honestly I think I'm just going to delete soon, if I wasn't getting such great material for my blog) I've been so self aware out in public.  I notice when someone does a double take and I wonder, "Oh shit, are they from that site?  Did I totally reject them (because 99% of them get rejected)?  They sort of look familiar!"  Talk about awkward moments.  I can't tell if I know someone in "real life" or "virtual life" anymore.  The lines have crossed.

Back in the days of MySpace (yes back in the day, 2003) when I was friends with anyone who was on there, I built "virtual friendships".  Some of which have become real life friends.  But that first meeting was awkward, using your screen name as your introduction.  You feel like you already know this person so well but you don't.  It's a crazy time we live in.

So next time you recognize me and I cross the street, don't take it personal....I'm just saving you and me from that awkward moment.  :)

Slow down I just wanna get to know you.

It seems like everyone is in such a rush to "fall in love". And it seems like you don't care who it’s with; you'll just make it work. Great love takes time and work. Forcing something that isn't there is a waste of energy.


Jumping to convo's of when we fall in love, what our kids will look like, etc will make me shut down instantly. Yes, I do want all that. But if I haven't met you, let alone talked on the phone, those are shut it down conversations. The only thing you know about me is what I wrote on my page.

In your defense, I'm sure a girl in your past has told you these are the things she wanted to hear from you. And now you are over compensating. But she probably said she wanted to hear these things from you after you were already in a relationship. Not at the first encounter.

Think about it men, if I came at you and said, "Oh my god, we'd make beautiful babies together! We should totally go to dinner, get married and just start making babies now!", you'd run for the hills. It comes off as desperate and needy.

What I’m looking for is a perfect fit and then we’ll have those conversations after some time. Stick to what I like to do for fun, etc. Sure go ahead and ask if I want the marriage and kids stuff….but don’t start planning our wedding….just yet.